Fear gets to the best of us, whether it is fear of failure, fear of success or even fear of fear. All of us have experienced fear at some point in our lives and it can be a real stumbling block that holds us back from being truly successful. To become successful in anything we have to take action despite being scared, to be courageous in the face of fear. So how can we develop the ability to bulldoze our way through fear? There are ways to conquer these fears; here are some fast acting tips for you to conquer your fear this year:
1. Separate reality from Perception
See the reality of the situation for what it is. Be rational and get clear on the facts. Soul search and explore your perception of the situation at hand.
2. Identify the triggers
Identify what triggers your fears. Clearly identify the fears that plague you. Once you identify them, they don’t become a foreign and terrifying monster. They can become that annoying neighbour that you ignore.
3. Embrace What You Cannot Change
We cannot always control what happens to us, but we can choose how we react to what happens. Though it isn’t always easy, we do have the power over our mental and emotional states, if we choose to assert our authority. Nobody else feels your fear, only you do. It exists within you. One way to increase your personal power is to recognize that which we cannot change and embrace it. Accepting what we cannot change is, paradoxically, very empowering, because we then realize that we don’t need to waste our time trying to change what cannot be changed and instead work on changing ourselves and our reaction to what is happening around us.
4. Become an Observer
When you observe something, you can do it from a detached place. So if you become an observer of your fear, then you’re not in it and reacting instinctively.
5. Have Gratitude
Few emotions are as powerful as gratitude. There is no room for fear or doubt inside a grateful mind, for the feeling of gratitude takes up the entire emotional space of our being. Gratitude banishes fear. How can we induce the feeling of gratitude? One way is to start listing off all of the things you are grateful for. Life itself is a gift, your heart is a gift, and the air you breathe is too.
6. Create a New Association
When you feel fear, conjure up a picture of something or someone you love. Keep repeating this and soon your brain will associate your fear trigger with something much more pleasurable.
7. Consider the Worst
Imagine the worst that can happen and come up with strategies that avoid or lessen the likelihood of it happening. What can you put in place to ensure that the worst-case scenario never happens?
8. Look at the Glass as Half Full
Perception is a very powerful thing. And how you feel about your situation dictates how you respond. So think positively and you’ll give yourself a much better chance of success.
9. Learn to create space before reacting
Because fear happens in the emotional part of the brain, it’s natural to act instinctively. So when fear rises, break the fear cycle by stopping, creating space and breathing. This will give you time to calm down and allow your rational brain time to catch up.
10. Make it Safe
When you feel safe, there is no need for fear. One of the best ways to overcome fear is to create the safest environment possible. And that’s why it’s important to practice, practice and practice again. Imagine and 11. Rehearse Success
In moments of fear, step back and imagine yourself successfully overcoming the obstacle you face. Picture yourself having already succeeded. Imagine the pats on the back and the handshakes. Really let yourself feel how it will feel when you succeed. Rehearse it over and over in your mind. This should give you a surge of confidence and direct your focus on achievement, rather than fear.
Finally, don’t let fear hold you back from reaching your goals and highest potential this year.